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Intimate Fellowship Encompasses Four Common Ideas of the Christian Life
By Mark D. Roberts | Tuesday, August 18, 2009
Part 10 of series: What is the Christian Life?
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So far in this series, I have been exploring the idea that the Christian life is, essentially, intimate fellowship with God and God’s people. I have based my discussion primarily on the first letter of John in the New Testament, where he uses the Greek word koinonia to describe the Christian life. This word, often translated as “fellowship,” points to a deep, committed relationship. Hence my translation “intimate fellowship.”
Today and tomorrow I want to show how the notion of intimate fellowship encompasses four common ideas of the Christian life.
If you were to poll a bunch of Christians, asking them “What is the Christian life?” you’d get a variety of answers. Among these you would commonly hear something like:
1. The Christian life is being in heaven after death.
2. The Christian life is feeling joy and peace in the Lord.
3. The Christian life is believing the right things about God and Jesus.
4. The Christian life is doing what God commands in his Word.
Each of these ideas is true to an extent. But each idea fails to encompass the diversity and depth of the Christian life. Intimate fellowship, however, is an elastic enough concept to embrace these four common ideas, allowing their partial truths to find completeness in a larger whole. Let me explain.
1. The Christian Life as Heaven?
The Christian life does include being in heaven after death. Those who think of the Christian life in this way correctly identify a core hope of our faith, but put too much emphasis upon post-mortem existence, overlooking the present reality of Christian living. When we think of the Christian life as intimate fellowship with God and God’s people, however, we understand that this fellowship begins the moment we believe in Jesus. It starts now and extends forever. Our koinonia continues beyond death, though we don’t have to wait until we die to experience it.
Putting emphasis upon intimate fellowship also clarifies the biblical sense of heaven. We often speak of heaven as a place, but most importantly it is the “place” where God dwells. To be “in heaven” is to be “with God.” The New Testament speaks of our future, not primarily in terms of some mysterious spiritual geography, but in terms of relationship. Our everlasting future will be “with the Lord” or “with Christ” (1 Thess 4:17; Phil 1:23). For this reason, Scripture can even speak of heaven as a present reality, since we already live with Christ (Eph 2:6). Yet we yearn for a more complete experience of heaven, not because it’s such a great place to live, but because it is the dwelling place of such a great God. In time, heaven will come to earth as God will dwell here among us (see Revelation 21, for example. Photo: Not heaven, but close. A tributary of the Gallatin River in Montana.)
2. The Christian Life as Joy and Peace in the Lord?
Surely the Christian life includes feeling joy and peace in the Lord. Although, taken alone, this notion puts too much weight upon certain positive emotions, such feelings often proceed from fellowship with Christ. Jesus makes this clear when he says that abiding in him – another way of talking about koinonia – will lead to overflowing joy (John 15:11). Moreover, when in times of worry we share in fellowship with God through prayer, then we “will experience God’s peace, which is far more wonderful than the human mind can understand. His peace will guard [our] hearts and minds as [we] live in Christ Jesus” (Phil 4:7). Joy and peace will be the sweet fruit of growing intimacy with God.
At the same time, we must never reduce the Christian life to positive feelings. For one thing, no Christians are immune from unhappy feelings such as grief or fear. For another, positive feelings are a common by-product of relationship with God, but not the relationship itself. The Christian life is rather like a marriage, in that marriage often includes warm feelings of love, but is not to be identified with those feelings.
These days, you’ll often hear people talk about worship in terms of their personal feelings. If they felt something tangible, such as joy or peace, in a worship service, then they really worshiped. If the feelings were absent, then so was real worship. But this confuses worship with feelings that often come as we worship. In fact, worship is not feeling something, but rather offering praise, thanks, adoration, confession, and ultimately ourselves to God. Genuine worship often includes genuine emotions, but emotions are not worship. Worship is an action, something we choose to do in order to honor the Lord.
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Walking in Darkness and Light (continued)
By Mark D. Roberts | Monday, August 17, 2009
Part 9 of series: What is the Christian Life?
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In yesterday’s post I began examining a passage from 1 John that uses the metaphor of walking to talk about how we live. To review, here’s the text:
This is the message he has given us to announce to you: God is light and there is no darkness in him at all. So we are lying if we say we have fellowship with God but go on living [lit. walking] in spiritual darkness. We are not living in the truth (1 John 1:5-6).
According to John, we cannot have intimate fellowship with God and, at the same time, live a life of persistent sinning.
After laying out this bad news, John adds something much more encouraging: “But if we are living in the light of God’s presence, just as Christ is, then we have fellowship with each other, and the blood of Jesus, his Son, cleanses us from every sin” (1 John 1:7). Once again, the use of “fellowship with each other” comes as a surprise. As he does in 1 John 1:3, John continues to link fellowship with God to fellowship with God’s people. If walking in darkness keeps us from fellowship with God, walking in the light – living our lives in fellowship with God – binds us to one another.
Moreover, when we walk in the light, “the blood of Jesus, his Son, cleanses us from every sin.” The verb translated as “cleanses” appears in the present tense in Greek. This tense shows that the cleansing by the blood of Jesus is an ongoing experience for Christians. John is not referring here simply to our initial experience of forgiveness when we first trusted Christ, but also to the repeated cleansing we experience when we sin. Although intimate fellowship with God precludes “living in spiritual darkness,” even when we know God and walk in him, we will still sin at times and find ourselves in need of forgiveness. We are not sentenced to a life filled with sin, however, because our hearts will be cleansed through the forgiveness we have in Jesus. In time, even the desire to sin will diminish within us if we keep on walking in the light of Christ. From John’s point of view, ongoing fellowship with God will, over time, extinguish within us the desire to do that which dishonors God.
Verses 5-8 demonstrate how koinonia impacts our whole life. It transforms our walk, our lifestyle, our way of living. Before entering into intimate fellowship with God and God’s people, we can and we do walk in darkness. We do what is evil and we keep on doing it. But once we have true fellowship with God through Christ, we experience forgiveness and cleansing that empowers us to stop walking in darkness. Yes, we continue to sin, but we have new freedom to overcome that sin.
Notice, however, that the Christian life is not some grueling battle of self-improvement. Walking in the light of God changes everything. Freedom from sin comes through fellowship with God. When we fail to live by God’s standards – and we all will – we don’t grit our teeth and strain to be perfect next time. Rather we come before God with an honest admission of our failures. As John says, “if we confess our sins to him, he is faithful and just to forgive us and to cleanse us from every wrong.” (1 John 1:9). The more we experience God’s forgiveness and cleansing, the more we will be strengthened to stop sinning. The more we receive God’s grace, the more we will live in freedom as the Spirit of God transforms every aspect of our lives (Gal 5).
Personally, I am thankful John mentions sin and forgiveness in this discussion of the Christian life. Even though my theology warns against it, my heart keeps on trying to turn the Christian life into a matter of perfect performance. A part of me thinks that I will finally live as a Christian if I only try hard enough, if I only do all of the right things. Of course I fall short of this unrealistic goal, both by failing to do many right things and by doing many wrong ones instead. Yet my shortcomings do not separate me from fellowship with God because the blood of Jesus his Son cleanses me from all sin. The Christian life is not a matter of perfection, but process, not performance for God, but relationship with God.
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Sunday Inspiration from The High Calling
By Mark D. Roberts | Sunday, August 16, 2009
God Was Still with Joseph
But the LORD was with Joseph in the prison and showed him his faithful love. And the LORD made Joseph a favorite with the prison warden.
In the first part of Genesis 39, God was with Joseph even though he was a slave of Potiphar. As a result, his master gave him substantial authority over his household. But things turned sour when Potiphar’s wife lusted after Joseph. In faithfulness to his master, Joseph rejected her advances. She responded by accusing him of attempted rape, so Potiphar threw Joseph in prison.
Yet the Lord was with Joseph even there, blessing him and ultimately putting him in charge of the other prisoners. Genesis goes so far as to say that God showed Joseph his faithful love (chesed in Hebrew).
Since most of us know how the story of Joseph turns out, we can see how God was moving in Joseph’s life, bringing him into a place of substantial prominence and authority. It’s easy for us to see God’s steadfast love at work in Joseph’s life.
But I wonder how Joseph felt about this. After all, he had been sold by his own brothers into slavery, separated from his beloved father and family. Then he had been falsely accused by his master’s wife when, in fact, he had been loyal to his master all along. How much would Joseph have appreciated being blessed by God in an Egyptian prison, hundreds of miles from his home and family, with no apparent hope of release? We don’t know the answer to this question, though we do know that Joseph served faithfully even in prison. It seems likely that somewhere along the way he struggled with despair. If I were Joseph, I would have asked the Lord: Why? Why, if you are with me, am I stuck in this prison, a slave in a foreign land? What in the world are you doing with me?
QUESTIONS FOR REFLECTION: Have you ever been perplexed by God’s mysterious presence in your life? Have you experienced God’s blessing in a situation that seemed to be so far from what you would have associated with God’s goodness? What helps you to be faithful even when you feel confused or despairing?
PRAYER: Dear Lord, Genesis 39 repeatedly says that you were with Joseph. Yet his life at this stage was so filled with heartache and disappointment. I must admit that, if I were in Joseph’s place, I would have found it hard to appreciate your presence in such desperate circumstances. I would have wondered what in the world you were doing with me.
As you know, dear Lord, there have been times like this in my own life, times when things seemed unbearably hard, times when I wondered where you were. Yet, as I look back on those seasons of my life, I can so clearly see your hand of blessing. Thank you, Lord, for being with me even when I can’t sense you, or even when I doubt your presence. Thank you for causing everything to work for good, according to your sovereign purposes.
Help me, gracious Lord, to trust you more, to have confidence in your presence, even when situations in my life don’t make sense to me. May I be faithful in service and prayer as I wait upon you. Amen.
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On Swan Lake in Montana . . .
By Mark D. Roberts | Saturday, August 15, 2009
My son, Nathan, gets a little “air” while wakeboarding . . . .
And then he get a little “air” while tubing . . . .
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Intimate Fellowship Impacts Our Whole Life
By Mark D. Roberts | Friday, August 14, 2009
Part 8 of series: What is the Christian Life?
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A couple of weeks ago I was working away on a series entitled “What is the Christian Life?” I got about two-thirds through that series when I was distracted by other things, including my most recent series on “Grief and the Christian Life.” I’d like to circle back and finish up my series on the Christian life before moving on to other issues.
Let me briefly review what I had explained before. Based on the opening verses of the first letter of John, the Christian life is koinonia, a Greek word often translated as “fellowship.” Yet “fellowship” misses the depth of koinonia, which is related etymologically to our word “communion.” I suggested that we translate koinonia as “intimate fellowship.”
According to 1 John, the Christian life is first and foremost intimate fellowship with God. But when we enjoy this kind of relationship with God, we are also drawn into intimate fellowship with God’s people. We are adopted as children into the family of God, where we have lots of brothers and sisters. Thus, the Christian life can be seen as intimate fellowship with God and God’s people.
In today’s post, and in the others that will finish this blog series, I want to show how this kind of intimate fellowship impacts every part of life.
Walking in Darkness
Sometimes I like to walk in darkness. I’m speaking literally here, not confessing my sin. There’s nothing quite like the quiet peace of a late night ramble. When I’m in the woods at midday, I can race along to achieve my hiking goals. But at night, when the light is limited, safety demands a slower, calmer, more soothing pace – a ramble rather than a race.
One of the things I love about my new life in Texas is living on the edge of the country. On my street there are no street lights. And my town has very few. Thus, when my wife and I walk our dog at night, we enjoy ambling along, with our path lit only by the moon or stars.
Sometimes, however, safety suggests that it just isn’t good to walk in darkness. Many years ago I was enjoying one of my nighttime strolls while staying at a camp in the mountains above San Bernardino, California. The path was paved and the moon provided just enough light to keep me from going astray. All of a sudden the tranquil quiet of the forest was interrupted by a faint rumble, then a grunt, then the distinct sound of a curious nose sniffing the air. Squinting in the darkness, I could just make out the distinct outline of a large black bear. I knew that forest rangers recommend calm, not panic, in a situation like this. They encourage us not to run, but rather to seem unimpressed. I also knew that black bears, the only kind remaining in California, rarely killed humans. (Photo: A black bear at night, like the one I met on the road.)
As the bear and I scrutinized each other, I felt glad that I hadn’t tried to smuggle some food from the camp dining hall to my dorm. The bear’s acute sense of smell confirmed the absence of snacks hidden somewhere on my person, so the beast moseyed off to find more a promising source for a midnight meal. Finally, when the bear had disappeared, I allowed myself to feel the fear that had been hiding in my heart.
“Sometimes,” I thought, “it isn’t good to walk in darkness.”
John would certainly agree. 1 John 1:6 speaks literally of “walking in darkness.” “Darkness” is a common metaphor for evil, found throughout ancient literature, including the Bible (for example, Ps 23:4; Prov 4:19). The verb “to walk” refers to the cumulative actions of a person’s life. How we walk is how we live, what we do day after day (for example, Ps 15:2; Prov 4:14). When John mentions “walking in darkness,” he’s not envisioning a late night ramble, but a lifestyle of sin.
For John, therefore, the implications of walking in darkness are much more life-threatening than an encounter with a bear:
This is the message he has given us to announce to you: God is light and there is no darkness in him at all. So we are lying if we say we have fellowship with God but go on living in spiritual darkness. We are not living in the truth (1 John 1:5-6).
Since God is pure light, living in darkness, which is to say, living a lifestyle of sin, will never follow from intimate fellowship with God. In fact, if we claim to have fellowship with God while continuing in sin, we lie, deceiving ourselves and any who would believe our claim. Our words and our actions are inconsistent with true relationship with God.
In my next post in this series I’ll finish looking at what it means to walk in darkness . . . and light.
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God Will Wipe Away Our Tears: Implications (Section 6)
By Mark D. Roberts | Thursday, August 13, 2009
Part 6 of series: God Will Wipe Away Our Tears: Grief and the Christian Life
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So far in this series I have been reflecting on some implications of the fact that, in the new creation, God will wipe away our tears. I have been asking and seeking to answer three questions:
1. What does this reveal about life?
2. What does this reveal about how we’re to live in the meanwhile?
3. What does this reveal about God?
I’ve dealt with questions 1 and 2 above. Now it’s time for question 3.
3. What does this [the fact that God will wipe away our tears as his first action in the new creation] tell us about God?
To begin, the fact that God will someday wipe away our tears means that God lets the tears remain for now. Although God comforts us at times, sometimes in profound and downright miraculous ways, we live with suffering and pain. Crying is a normal part of our existence in this age, and God is allowing it to go on.
When we’re talking about the tears that come from relatively minor, temporary suffering, the reality of human tears is not terrible problematic. But when the suffering is great and long, we can ache for the new creation. Moreover, we can feel frustrated, perplexed, and angry with God for allowing people to experience so much pain. It seems sometimes like a loving God would do a whole lot more tear wiping in this age, rather than holding back so much until the age to come.
God’s willingness to allow us to suffer is even more perplexing when we meditate on the fact that he will wipe away every tear from every eye. Notice, God will wipe away each tear. He will not blow them away with a mighty wind. Or evaporate them with a roaring fire. Or obliterate them with a snap of his fingers. God will not condemn our tears. He will not rebuke with the parental favorite: “Stop you’re crying, you baby!” Rather, God will wipe away each tear. It’s hard to imagine a more tender image. Wiping away tears is an intimate gesture. It’s the sort of thing a mother does with her own children.
Moreover, if you’ve ever wiped away someone’s tears, you know that it’s impossible to do this without a measure of sympathy. The one who wipes the tears doesn’t stand far off at an emotionally safe distance. Rather, the tear wiper draws near, gently touching and comforting the one who weeps, and often feeling some of the weeper’s pain. The fact that God will wipe away our tears reminds us of God’s gracious, loving presence in our lives, even and especially in our pain.
Of course this is nothing new. The Incarnation of the Word of God demonstrates powerfully the presence of God in our lives, including our suffering. As it says in Hebrews 2:17-18:
Therefore [Jesus] had to become like his brothers and sisters in every respect, so that he might be a merciful and faithful high priest in the service of God, to make a sacrifice of atonement for the sins of the people. Because he himself was tested by what he suffered, he is able to help those who are being tested.
In the Gospels we find one story in which Jesus himself wept. It comes in John 11, in the context of the death of Lazarus, the brother of Mary and Martha of Bethany, and a friend of Jesus. We read:
When Mary came where Jesus was and saw him, she knelt at his feet and said to him, “Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died.” When Jesus saw her weeping, and the Jews who came with her also weeping, he was greatly disturbed in spirit and deeply moved. He said, “Where have you laid him?” They said to him, “Lord, come and see.” Jesus began to weep. (John 11:32-35)
The text does not tell us why Jesus wept. The phrase, “greatly disturbed in spirit and deeply moved” may well indicate anger rather than sadness. There is an extensive scholarly debate about this. This possibility, along with our cultural discomfort with tears, has given rise to the suggestion that Jesus wept over the unbelief of the people. Yet this is hard to find in the text unless one reads it into the text. It seems more likely that Jesus wept out of a sense of compassion for those who were grieving, an example of weeping with those who weep. It’s possible that Jesus was also grieving over the brokenness of this world, a fact represented by death and tears. (Photo: Giotto, ” Raising of Lazarus,” 1304-1306 AD).
Although literal tears do not show up in the telling of the story of Jesus in the Garden of Gethsemane, we do find a powerful example of Jesus feeling grief. Here how Mark puts it:
They went to a place called Gethsemane; and he said to his disciples, “Sit here while I pray.” He took with him Peter and James and John, and began to be distressed and agitated. And said to them, “I am deeply grieved, even to death; remain here, and keep awake” (Mark 14:32-35).
Jesus’ suffering was not only an aspect of his Incarnation. It was also an essential component of his redeeming work as the Servant of God. This Servant was revealed through the prophet Isaiah to be a suffering servant, one whose suffering lead to healing for others:
He was despised and rejected by others;
a man of suffering and acquainted with infirmity;
and as one from whom others hide their faces
he was despised, and we held him of no account.
Surely he has borne our infirmities
and carried our diseases;
yet we accounted him stricken,
struck down by God, and afflicted.
But he was wounded for our transgressions,
crushed for our iniquities;
upon him was the punishment that made us whole,
and by his bruises we are healed. (Isa 53:3-5)
Of course not all Christians have been comfortable with the real suffering of Jesus. The Gnostic Christians of the early church embraced the heresy of a non-suffering Savior, who only appeared to suffer. This Gnostic tendency continues to thrive in some avenues of the orthodox church. Most notably, it appears in the beloved Christmas carol, “Away in a Manger.” You’ll remember these lines from the second stanza: “The cattle are lowing, the Baby awakes, But little Lord Jesus, no crying he makes.” It’s hard to imagine any baby who, awakened by strange animal noises, does not cry, unless that baby is not quite human.
Jesus, the ultimate revelation of God, both felt pain and wept. Yes, this reflected his being fully human as well as fully God. But it also underscored the fact that God cares about our suffering, even going so far as to share in it. The God who wipes away every tear is the same God who, in Psalm 56:8, keeps a record of our tossings and puts our tears in his bottle. This God does not stand far off, watching us “from a distance,” as the pop song once proclaimed. Rather, the Triune God draws near to us, comforting us tenderly and even joining in our sorrows.
Yet the time will come when God’s triumph will be complete. In that day, God will first wipe away every tear from every face. Then, “mourning and crying and pain will be no more” (Rev. 21:4). With this hope we live today, grieving differently, weeping with those who weep, encouraging one another with the truth of the Gospel.
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Tubing Fun in Montana
By Mark D. Roberts | Wednesday, August 12, 2009
A couple recent vacation pics.
My daughter and her friend get a little “air” over Swan Lake, Montana.
My son enjoys the spray.
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God Will Wipe Away Our Tears: Implications (Section 5)
By Mark D. Roberts | Tuesday, August 11, 2009
Part 5 of series: God Will Wipe Away Our Tears: Grief and the Christian Life
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In my last post, I continued to answer the question,
2. What does this [the fact that God will wipe away our tears in the new creation] reveal about how we’re to live in the meanwhile?
I showed that, not only are we to be people who grieve differently, but also we are to share in the grief of others. Simply stated,
c. We weep with those who weep.
But is this all? If we’re with someone who is hurting, have we completed our duty if we sit with them, sharing in their pain, and perhaps even joining them in their weeping? No, this is not all, but it is essential. What is required of us, in addition to weeping with those who weep, will only make sense if, first, we open our hearts to the hurting and share in their suffering.
Yet there is more. Returning to the passage in 1 Thessalonians that we examined a few posts ago, we see that Paul urges the Thessalonians Christians to grieve, but “not . . . as others do who have no hope” (4:13). He does on to address the specific reason for Thessalonians sadness, the recent deaths of some fellow believers and the mistaken view that these people would miss out on the return of Christ. In fact, Paul explains, they’ll end up meeting Jesus before those who are living at the time of his Parousia. As a result of this vision of the future, Paul tells the Thessalonians, “Therefore encourage one another with these words” (4:18). The active imperative in the Greek original of this verse could even be rendered, “Therefore, keep on encouraging one another with these words.”
So my grandmother wasn’t completely off base in her conviction that we’re to cheer up the person who is weeping. She overlooked the sympathetic “co-weeping” that Paul commends in Romans 12:15, and this was both a theological and a relational mistake. But she was right to suppose that we do have an opportunity and a responsibility to help those who are hurting to be consoled or encouraged. (Note: the Greek verb translated in 4:18 as “encourage” can also mean “console.”)
And how do we encourage or console those who are grieving? We do so “with these words.” In the specific situation of the Thessalonians, this meant sharing with each other the fact that those who had died in Christ would not be left out when he returned. More broadly, the example of Paul in 1 Thessalonians 4 suggests that we are to encourage each other by the good news of the Gospel and its implications.
This kind of encouragement is rooted in the truth, not in denial or “happy-talk.” For example, if somebody you know has life-threatening cancer, true encouragement isn’t saying the sort of thing you often hear said in such circumstances: “Oh, I’m sure it will all turn out fine.” “The doctors will be able to get every bit of that cancer.” “I know you’ll be 100% in no time.” Such wishful thinking is well-intended, but its capacity to encourage is severely limited. Truth-based encouragement, however, points to the facts: “God is with you in this time of suffering, and so am I.” “Your life is in God’s hands, and he will never let you go.” “God is the healer and you can trust him to do what’s best.” As a pastor, there have been times when I’ve said to somebody, “Yes, it’s possible that your life in this age won’t be as long as you had hoped, but your eternal life is in the Lord. What lies ahead for you – and for all of us – is wonderful beyond what we can imagine. But, for now, I’ll be praying each day for your healing, as well as for you to know the presence and comfort of the Lord.”
Encouragement like this can be effective in the life of one who suffers if it is based on the truth, and if it comes in the context of genuine sympathy. When people know that you have hurt with them, then they’ll be more open to hear what you have to say to them.
When we’re with someone who is grieving, often we can do more than weep with them and encourage them with the Gospel. It’s quite likely that there are specific ways we can serve them. I think, for example, of when my father was dying of liver cancer. People in our church did plenty of co-weeping. And, upon occasion, they encouraged us with the truth. But they also saw how much we needed some tangible signs of God’s love. My family and I had decided to keep my dad at home as long as possible, preferably until he died. His last months were difficult, as he required round-the-clock nursing care. We hired someone to carry part of this load, but we did the lion’s share of the personal care, my mother, most of all. In order to help us, people at church decided to bring us dinner every night until my dad died. This open-ended commitment turned out to involve almost a hundred meals brought by a hundred different people. The meals varied from fast food picked up on the way home from work to elaborate feasts that were lovingly prepared for hours and hours. But no matter the quality or quantity, we received every meal as an act of encouragement. In the love of people in our church, we not only heard the Gospel, but also felt it. (Photo: I will never forget the roast beef dinner prepared by Lillian Downey. It was amazing. The picture is not the actual dinner, but gives you a mouthwatering idea of what Lillian did for us.)
So, in addition to weeping with those who weep, we’re also called to encourage them and, as needed, to love them in tangible ways.
In my next post in this series I’ll begin to address the third question I have asked in response to the fact of God’s tear-wiping in the new creation: What does this reveal about God?” Stay tuned. . . .
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God Will Wipe Away Our Tears: Implications (Section 4)
By Mark D. Roberts | Monday, August 10, 2009
Part 4 of series: God Will Wipe Away Our Tears: Grief and the Christian Life
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So far in this series I have been reflecting on some implications of the fact that, in the new creation, God will wipe away our tears. I have been asking and seeking to answer three questions:
1. What does this reveal about life?
2. What does this reveal about how we’re to live in the meanwhile?
3. What does this reveal about God?
In answer to question #1, the fact that God will someday wipe away our tears reveals that life on this side of the new creation will contain tears. Suffering, loss, and pain will be normal for us, even as they will be mixed with pleasure, gain, and joy.
My answer to question #2 has contained two parts so far. The fact of future tear-wiping reveals that:
a. We recognize the reality of pain and suffering.
b. We grieve differently.
As Christians, we are not surprised by the tragedies and tears of this life, though we do grieve them. Yet we grieve differently because our grief is awash in hope.
Today I want to continue to address the question, “What does this reveal about how we’re to live in the meanwhile?” by focusing on how we should relate to others when they are grieving.
c. We weep with those who weep.
I grew up in a family system that didn’t have much room for tears. My mother, who was prone to cry when her emotions were stirred, even if it was by a Kodak commercial on television, was the brunt of consistent family ridicule. Even tears of joy made us uncomfortable as a family.
But tears of sadness didn’t have much place either. My mother’s mother was surely one of the dominant influences in our family system. Her emotional motto was simple: “Make somebody happy and you’ll be happy too.” I expect I heard this from her mouth probably a thousand times while growing up, literally. (That’s about once a week during my childhood, a conservative guess.) If one of my sisters, for example, was sad in my grandmother’s presence, my job was to “Cheer her up!” This meant, not empathizing or sitting quietly with her, but rather acting silly and funny in her presence. Or it meant reminding her in a scolding tone to “Count your blessings.” (Photo: my grandparents with a younger and hairier me)
For the most part, my church environment seemed to reiterate what I had learned at home. Sadness was something to be avoided. If we were with someone who was grieving, our job was to help them stop grieving. (In actuality, because we were uncomfortable with the whole experience of grief, we often left sad people alone.) There were exceptions to this “Cheer them up or ignore them” mentality in my church experience, however. Once, when my mother was crying in the presence of Lloyd Ogilvie, our Senior Pastor at church, she apologized for her tears. “Martha,” he said in his sonorous baritone, “tears are the lubrication of the Holy Spirit.” Yet, even with Pastor Ogilvie weighing in on the benefit of tears, we still didn’t stop teasing my mother for being over-lubricated by the Spirit.
As I think back on my childhood and my early church experience, I can’t quite figure out why we managed to ignore one of the clearest, simplest imperatives in the whole Bible. It comes in Romans 12, in a list of instructions for how we’re to live with each other in the body of Christ. There we read, “Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep” (12:15). The answer to the question of how we’re to relate to those who grieve couldn’t be any plainer. We’re to weep with those who weep.
This passage of Scripture, in harmony with many others, calls us to sympathize with those who are grieving. Sympathy, as you may know, comes from the Greek word sympatheia, which means “feeling with” someone. Sympathy with those who hurt is what Scripture calls us to in Romans 12:15.
Notice, however, that this verse goes beyond mere sympathy. We’ not just to feel bad with people, but also to share in their expression of pain. We’re to weep alongside those who weep. This suggests sympathy pervaded empathy, which is feeling what others are feeling. (For some odd reason, sympathy lost favor some years ago. I heard sympathy derided as superficial. Empathy, “being able to feel what others are feeling” became the summum bonum of caring relationships. I think empathy is just great. But so is genuine sympathy.)
I don’t think Romans 12:15 requires some new rule that compels us to cry with the crying. This, after all, might push us in the direction of superficial or even sham sympathy. There will be times when we actually weep with the weeping, and times when we don’t. Some people, like my mother, and like me if I must be honest, seem to shed tears more easily than others. This has to do with our emotional wiring, not our biblical literalism.
So, whether you actually weep with the weeping or not, you can choose to put yourself in place where such is possible. And this, I think, would be the main point of Romans 12:15. To weep with those who weep means getting close to them in their pain. It means feeling sympathy. It means opening our own hearts to the possibility of empathy, thus feeling the pain of a brother or sister. This might very well lead us to shed tears. But the tears are not the point. A deep, genuine “being with in pain” is the point.
“Is this all?” you might wonder. Are we merely to feel the pain of a sister or brother who is suffering? I’ll answer this question in my next post.
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Sunday Inspiration from The High Calling
By Mark D. Roberts | Sunday, August 9, 2009
A Discerning God
”And God saw that the light was good. Then he separated the light from the darkness.”
From the beginning, God saw with moral vision. He saw the light, and saw its goodness. God discerns the true nature of everything. He sees clearly the difference between right and wrong. He cannot be fooled by pretense or pretending. Even today, God “separates” the light from the darkness, the good from the evil. His moral judgment is always clear, always right, always to be trusted. He looks upon every part of life, not just the “religious” or the “spiritual.”
QUESTIONS FOR REFLECTION: What might God think about your work? Your key relationships? Your family life? What in your life might God see as truly good?
PRAYER: Gracious God, I praise you this day for your moral discernment. You see all things as they are. You judge all things according to your perfect justice. How grateful I am to be able to count on your wisdom and discernment. Help me, dear Lord, to see as you see. By your Spirit, may I see my life through your eyes, both the good and the evil. May I confess the evil to you and turn from it, so that I might invest more of myself in that which you know to be good. Amen.
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No Sign of Wile E. Coyote
By Mark D. Roberts | Saturday, August 8, 2009
A genuine Roadrunner at Laity Lodge . . .
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God Will Wipe Away Our Tears: Implications (Section 3)
By Mark D. Roberts | Friday, August 7, 2009
Part 3 of series: God Will Wipe Away Our Tears: Grief and the Christian Life
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In yesterday’s post I continued reflecting on some implications of the fact that, in the new creation, God will wipe away our tears. I began to answer the question:
2. What does the fact that God will wipe away our tears reveal about how we’re to live in the meanwhile?
So far my answer contained two parts:
a. We recognize the reality of pain and suffering.
b. We grieve differently.
My claim that we grieve differently really isn’t my claim at all, as I explained yesterday. It is based on the clear teach of the Scripture in 1 Thessalonians 4:13, where it says, “But we do not want you to be uninformed, brothers and sisters, about those who have died, so that you may not grieve as others do who have no hope.” Because of the pains of this life, we will grieve, but not in the way that others who have no hope grieve.
If you’ve been to as many funerals as I have, you’ll know exactly what Paul is talking about here. I have done funerals for people whose friends and family members are not people of faith. These services have a heaviness about them that you could almost cut with a knife. Sure, there may be some funny stories about the deceased. But, bottom line, the people gathered believe that their loved one’s life is over and that’s it.
In contrast, I have led many memorial services for people whose family and friends are faithful Christians. These services can have plenty of grief, especially when the person who died was relatively young. But they always have lots of joy as well. The joy mixed with sadness comes because of hope, the hope of life beyond this life.
Yet some Christians believe that because of this hope there is no place for grief in the authentic Christian life. It should be “joy, joy, joy” and nothing more. In the past, when I have spoken of Christians grieving, I have been asked how grief is compatible with faith and joy. “Aren’t Christians supposed to be joyful? How can you say that grieving is okay?”
In response to this question, I’m tempted to say something snarky like, “Well, because I read my Bible.” (“Snarky,” by the way, is a great word I learned from Lauren Winner at Laity Lodge. It means “obnoxious, annoying, irritating, sarcastic.”) But, in fact, this answer is actually true. There is much in Scripture, in both Old and New Testaments, that gives us permission to grieve, even as Scripture also calls us to rejoice. You can see plenty of sadness in the Psalms. Consider Psalm 6:6-7 for example:
I am weary with my moaning;
every night I flood my bed with tears;
I drench my couch with my weeping.
My eyes waste away because of grief;
they grow weak because of all my foes.
Nothing in this passage and so many like it suggests that grief is off limits.
Turning to the New Testament, the grief of Jesus in the Garden of Gethsemane is striking and indisputable:
They went to the olive grove called Gethsemane, and Jesus said, “Sit here while I go and pray.” He took Peter, James, and John with him, and he became deeply troubled and distressed. He told them, “My soul is crushed with grief to the point of death. Stay here and keep watch with me” (Mark 14:32-33).
If it was okay for Jesus to be “crushed with grief” and even to share that grief with his disciples, shouldn’t it be okay for the followers of Jesus to grieve in situations of great pain and sadness.
We see this very thing in the writings of the Apostle Paul. He models an open expression of personal pain in his second letter to the Corinthians:
We do not want you to be unaware, brothers and sisters, of the affliction we experienced in Asia; for we were so utterly, unbearably crushed that we despaired of life itself. Indeed, we felt that we had received the sentence of death so that we would rely not on ourselves but on God who raises the dead” (2 Cor 1:8-9).
In fact, human suffering and grief exemplifies what is happening throughout this broken cosmos:
We know that the whole creation has been groaning in labor pains until now; and not only the creation, but we ourselves, who have the first fruits of the Spirit, groan inwardly while we wait for adoption, the redemption of our bodies (Romans 8:22-23)
So, this side of the new creation, grief is normal and not to be denied or denigrated.
This leads to my next question in response to the future wiping away of tears by the Lord: How are we to live with each other as we grieve? In particular, how are we to respond to those in our lives who are grieving? I’ll pick this up in the next post of this series
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God Will Wipe Away Our Tears: Implications (Section 2)
By Mark D. Roberts | Thursday, August 6, 2009
In yesterday’s post I began cogitating on the implications of the fact that, as the first act in the new creation, God will wipe away our tears. I suggested that this action of God reminds us of the pain and brokenness of this life. Today I’ll address the second of my three basic questions:
1. What does this reveal about life?
2. What does this reveal about how we’re to live in the meanwhile?
3. What does this reveal about God?
2. What does the fact that God will wipe away our tears reveal about how we’re to live in the meanwhile?
According to Revelation 21:4, one day God will “wipe every tear” from our eyes. Then, “Death will be no more; mourning and crying and pain will be no more.” What a great day that will be! So how should we live in the meanwhile?
a. We recognize the reality of pain and suffering.
This mostly reiterates what I said yesterday. As Christians, we recognize the reality of pain and suffering. We don’t pretend that the world is perfect. We don’t act as if we have transcended all suffering. We don’t claim to have “victory in Jesus” today that insulates us from all difficult. We don’t believe that if we just have enough faith, we can “name it and claim it” and all will be will. (When I last checked, even the “name it and claim it” faith preachers get old and die. Hmmmm.)
If we take seriously the brokenness of our world, we Christians should not be shocked when bad things happen. Tragedies are part and parcel of our fallen world, which is “groaning as in labor pains” (Romans 8:22). When terrible events occurs, when people do what’s wrong, we should not be surprised . . . . grieved, yes, shocked, no.
b. We grieve, but differently.
Yes, as people who believe that God will one day wipe away every tear, we grieve differently from those who lack this confidence.
1 Thessalonians 4 provides a salient example. In this chapter, the Apostle Paul addressed a touchy situation in the church in Thessalonica, a fellowship he had founded not long before he wrote the letter. Paul had taught his converts that Jesus would return and they would be “caught up” to meet him. But when some of these new Christians died, their fellows believed that they had missed out on the return of Jesus. They were grieving, not only because their friends had died, but also because they thought they had missed out on the life to come.
Paul wrote to reassure the Thessalonians. Those who die before Christ returns will, nevertheless, be included among those who welcome him back to earth in his second coming. Paul began his counsel with these words: “But we do not want you to be uninformed, brothers and sisters, about those who have died, so that you may not grieve as others do who have no hope” (1 Thess 4:13). Notice what this verse does not say. It does not say that we should “not grieve, as others do who have no hope.” Rather, it says that we should not grieve in the manner of those who have no hope. In other words, grieving is a part of this life. We share grief with all human beings. But we grieve differently because we do so with hope.
Christian hope is not wishful thinking, by the way. It isn’t believing that everything will always turn out hunky-dory in this life. Rather, Christian hope is confidence in God’s future. It’s believing that there will be a time when God will wipe away every tear, and when mourning itself will pass away. Christian hope is based on the resurrection of Jesus, the sure sign of the victory of God over sin, death, and suffering. And so we grieve, yet with faithful confidence that frames our grief.
In the past, when I’ve talked or written about grief in these terms, people have sometimes challenged what I’ve said. “Aren’t we supposed to rejoice in the Lord always?” they ask. “How, therefore, can you commend grief as part of the Christian life?” I’ll answer this question in my next post in this series.
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God Will Wipe Away Our Tears: Implications
By Mark D. Roberts | Wednesday, August 5, 2009
Yesterday I put up some highlights of Scotty Smith’s recent contribution to a Laity Lodge retreat. I mentioned that one of the things he said that struck me was this: “God’s first action in the new creation is to wipe away tears.” As I explained yesterday, I have known Revelation 21:4, the source of Scotty’s insight, for over 40 years. If you had asked me, I could have told you that the first thing God does in the new creation is to wipe away tears. But I had never really given this fact any serious thought until Scotty brought it up. (Photo: Along with Scotty, we were pleased to welcome as musicians Brian Moss and Lisa Pierre. Lisa is singing in the Great Hall.)
Let me share with you some of the implications of God’s wiping away tears as the first act of the new creation. These reflections build upon what Scotty shared with us at Laity Lodge. Perhaps the best way to present my thoughts is by asking and then answering three questions:
1. What does this reveal about life?
2. What does this reveal about how we’re to live in the meanwhile?
3. What does this reveal about God?
1. What does the fact that God will wipe away our tears reveal about life?
Simply put, it reveals that this life includes tears, many, in fact. When the new creation comes, there will be tears that need to be wiped away. There will be sadness that lingers. Another line from Revelation 21:3 promises that “mourning and crying and pain will be no more.” By implication, this life is full of mourning and crying and pain.
What I’m saying here might seem so obvious that it doesn’t need to be mentioned. Of course life in this world is marked by tears. Of course there is suffering and pain. Of course. Yet many religions and philosophies deny the reality of suffering. Even Christians, who should be the first to acknowledge the tears of this life, can get so wrapped up in the genuine joy of knowing God that they minimize or deny the truth of suffering. This is a giant theological mistake.
Now, of course this life includes more than just tears. The residual goodness of God’s creation remains, filling our lives with earthly joys as well as sorrows. Moreover, the presence of God in our lives offers peace and comfort today, as well as hope for the future. Our experience in this world is clearly a mixed bag of tears and laughter. As we read in Ecclesiastes: “[There is] time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance” (3:4).
Christians understand the tear-stained reality of this life to be other than God how God intended it. We believe that the perfection of creation was marred by human sin, leading to suffering, pain, and buckets of tears. We also believe that because of what God has done in Christ, there will be a time when God will wipe away our tears and then they shall be no more. But, in the meanwhile, we unashamedly recognize the fact of human suffering and the accompanying tears.
In tomorrow’s post I’ll suggest how we might live in this meanwhile, how we might respond to the reality of suffering and tears in our world.
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Scotty Smith, Laity Lodge, and the New Creation
By Mark D. Roberts | Tuesday, August 4, 2009
At our recent Laity Lodge retreat we were pleased to have Scotty Smith as our speaker. Scotty is the founding pastor of Christ Community Church in Franklin, Tennessee. After twenty years as Senior Pastor, he is now the Pastor for Preaching, Teaching, and Worship at CCC.
At our retreat, Scotty addressed the topic: “Living Like Heaven is a Real Place: Finding Our Place in God’s Big Story of Redemption and Restoration.” He focused on the last two chapters of Revelation, setting these chapters in the context of the whole sweep of Scripture.
Scotty enhanced his teaching by use of a painting that was created for Christ Community Church. “God’s Story” by David Arms is a marvelous visual representation of the whole biblical narrative, beginning with creation in Genesis 1 and ending with the new creation in Revelation 21-22. You can find out more about this painting and its meaning on the Christ Community Church website.
Scotty used the vision of the new creation in Revelation 21-22 as a way of opening our minds to God’s intentions, not just for the future, but also for the present. I was struck by many things Scotty said. I’ll quote (or paraphrase) a few of them here:
We need to emerge from our individualistic micro-narrative into the grand narrative of God.
Is there anything other than the sinner’s prayer? [Re: our praying “the sinner’s prayer” in conversion]
If God was going to annihilate this creation, why did he call it good in the first place?
God’s first action in the new creation is to wipe away our tears.
This last observation wasn’t just some touchy-feely invention. Scotty took it quite literally from Revelation 21:3-4. Here’s the text:
And I heard a loud voice from the throne saying,
“See, the home of God is among mortals.
He will dwell with them as their God;
they will be his peoples,
and God himself will be with them;
he will wipe every tear from their eyes.
Death will be no more;
mourning and crying and pain will be no more,
for the first things have passed away.”
I’ve known this passage from Revelation for over 40 years. I can almost quote it verbatim. So if you had asked me “What’s the first thing God does in the new creation?” I could have answered “He will wipe every tear from their eyes.” But, honestly, until Scotty pointed to that line, teaching it truthfully and illustrating it poignantly, I had never before considered the striking implications of this verse.
Tomorrow I’ll share some of those implications with you. Today, I want to thank Scotty Smith for his outstanding teaching, his tender pasturing, and his friendship. It was a blessing to have him at Laity Lodge, and I look forward to his next visit.
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